What are the best books on assertiveness? It’s important to work on your assertiveness – both for your confidence and for your happiness. Assertiveness makes a lot of sense in private and at work. How do I become more assertive? Here you will find our book recommendations …

An overview of the best assertiveness books

For anyone who wants to learn to stand up for themselves, we have compiled an overview of the best assertiveness books. We start our recommendations with the top 10 best books about Assertiveness of all time. This list has been updated this year, including all the recent titles.

Best Assertiveness BooksAuthor
The Keys to Being Brilliantly Confident and More AssertiveRichard Banks
Alpha Assertiveness Guide for Men and WomenGerard Shaw
The Assertiveness Guide for WomenJulie De Azevedo Hanks
The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.Patrick King
 Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of OthersJudy Murphy
 Assertiveness: How to Be Strong in Every SituationConrad Potts
 Emotional Intelligence for LeadershipJonatan SlaneJonatan Slane
 Assertiveness Training: How to Stand Up for Yourself, Boost Your Confidence, and Improve Assertive Communication SkillsChase Hill
The Assertiveness WorkbookDena Michelli
Cool, Calm, and Confident: A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Assertiveness Skills Lisa M. Schab

The updated top 10 list: the best books about assertiveness

Assertiveness Workbook: Practical Exercises to Improve Communication, Set Boundaries, and Be Your Best Advocate

Not everyone learns to stand up for themselves and create healthy boundaries. This book will do just that if you are willing to invest time and practice in becoming a better you. It will result in self-confidence and a more positive life and work environment.

Alpha Assertiveness Guide for Men and Women: The Workbook for Training Assertive Behavior and Communication Skills to Live Bold, Command Respect and Gain Confidence at Work and in Relationships

If you lack assertiveness skills in life in general, or if you could use tips on how to communicate what you want at work, we recommend reading this book by Gerard Shaw. He focuses on how you can create your own success and grow as a person.

Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty… And Start Speaking up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, and Unapologetically Being Yourself

Some people want to be liked too much, and they end up letting people take advantage of them. They don’t know how to not let others step over their boundaries. Maybe they are not even aware of their unhealthy habits. This book helps you: say ‘no’, ask for what you really want, be more open, and lose those feelings of guilt.

The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control

Having the skills of an assertive person is not something that you wake up with one day. It can be hard work to change your habits of pleasing people and saying ‘yes’ to everything. Want to improve your ways? Read this book.

The Assertiveness Guide for Women: How to Communicate Your Needs, Set Healthy Boundaries, and Transform Your Relationships

Men and women are different, so it is not strange that the subject of assertiveness is dealt with in a separate book for all the females in this world. Don’t let emotions get in your way any longer. Learn to understand your behavior and how you can turn it into the best ‘you’.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

Mark Manson has the capacity to tell you why and how you should stop caring about every little detail or every person who thinks bad of you in your life. You can never please everyone nor do everything right. You are human. Start acting like one. Accepting your flaws will make you happier.

Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others

If you want to improve your relationships, whether at work, at home, or at the sports club, start with your communication. Telling what you want in a good way will not only be effective for yourself, but also make clear to the people around you what you really want (or why and how you want it).

On Confidence

Ever heard someone say: ‘Just act with confidence, then people will automatically perceive you that way’? Doing this will actually have a positive effect on your level of confidence, even if the way you feel on the inside doesn’t completely match the outside (yet!). Practice does make perfect after all.

Cool, Calm, and Confident: A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Assertiveness Skills 

If your child seems to be less confident than is good for him or her, then we advise you to get this book. It is aimed at children aged 6 to 12, but you can even join and read together with your child. It

The Assertiveness Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) 

Do you find yourself slowly removing yourself from a group of people that are too loud for you or seem to know the answer to everything? Learn how to communicate and claim your space by becoming an assertive (not aggressive!) person.

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